I was talking with a friend the other day and we discussed how success is different to others. Some may define success as having a lot of money in the bank, hot cars, and cool houses. Others may define success as the ability to continue what you love to do without giving up. My father thinks its a success when he wakes up alive and well each day. Basically, we all have our vision or definition of what success means to us. So why do we chase after validation from others when it really is up to us to be happy with what we are doing in life?
I don’t know if it is because my birthday has just passed, or I am growing older, but the thoughts of how others perceive my success really doesn’t matter to me anymore. Do I want to be liked? YES. Do I want to be accepted? OF COURSE. Do I want others to look up to me. ABSOLUTELY. But if they don’t, I no longer feel like I am less of a person because of that. I am a success in my eyes, not because of the money I make, the things I own, or the people I associate with—I am a success because I am happy doing what I love; not everyone can say that.
Some of us (including me) spend so much time trying to get validation from others—and for what? Does this improve or quality of life? Does it feed the poor or cure the sick? In the grand scheme of things, what others think does matter but shouldn’t rule our daily lives. It has taken me years to learn this lesson. I only wish I knew THEN what I know NOW. Talk about a waste of time.
I’ve made plenty of mistakes in my life, but I am most thankful for the ability to get up in the morning with a chance to correct them. I am still growing into the woman I hope to soon become. Worrying about if others view me as a success is no longer something I even want to entertain in my mind. If I just help one person, touch one soul, or assist someone else with their dreams, then I am okay with that.
Success is relative—impress yourself first.
This has been an a-ha moment 🙂