Yes, I brought out my bitchiness in the title of the post but I mean it in the most sincere way. The subject of this post came to me while having a conversation with a male friend. He was telling me about a girl he went to high school with who was the prettiest girl in his graduating class. Every boy wanted to be her boyfriend and had many a wet dream about her. She was Coke bottle shaped (according to him) with a pleasant smile, long real hair (his description, not mine), and “fine as wine”. What’s the point? Well, he ran into her a few weeks ago, and my have things changed.
He said that she still looks good, but isn’t as beautiful as he remembered. I did mention to him that as he has matured, his tastes have probably changed—he agreed. He said he noticed her instantly and remembered her. She was maybe a few pounds heavier, but still was attractive. Still had that gorgeous smile.
My friend told me that after he approached her and reminded her who he was, they chatted a bit, but something was off about her. She was snobbish, cool, and rather unpleasant to talk to. He said he couldn’t put his finger on it, but said that the way she acted made her look unattractive.
“She was a 10 back in the day but she’s a 7 right now thinking she’s still a 10. I know a bunch of broads that make her look regular,” he said.
Hateration? Maybe. But I think he is onto something. There are plenty of women who were IT back in the day who think they still are IT—little do they know, there are plenty of women who are considered more attractive.
If you are only your looks and faded pictures of what you used to look like, that isn’t saying much.
My grandmother got me straight plenty early. When I was 14, I would visit St. Louis from Florida and I made all the boys turn their heads in the neighborhood. I thought I was everythang, okay? And she told me, “There is always someone prettier than you.”
It stung, but it was true. There is always someone out there who is prettier, smarter, taller, skinnier, more awesome than you. If you base yourself off of just looks and no substance, then you learn this lesson the hard way. One day you look in the mirror and see one more wrinkle that you didn’t have before. Or maybe those jeans fit tighter than they used to. Or maybe your smile isn’t as bright as it used to be.
Whatever the case, be happy with who you are on the inside, and it will naturally show on the outside. Or you can be like the woman above, age 40, thinking she still has it going on when in reality, her time may have come and gone.