We’d all like to think that our children are angels. But in reality, no matter how perfect we think our kids are (or want them to be), they aren’t perfect—they are human. And as kids, they may get into trouble, especially at school when rules may not always be followed. As a parent, you can’t freak out if the school calls you.
Here is what to do if or when the teacher calls you about disciplinary problems:
1. Stay Calm:
Getting irate and freaking out when a teacher calls is out of order. Instead, breathe, relax, and focus on the matter at hand. Do not assign blame before listening to what the teacher has to say. And the operative word is LISTEN. Do not interrupt the teacher and stay composed. That’s the best way to handle the situation.
2. Take It In, Then Repeat:
Before you begin to assess what you are going to do, take it in. Take a moment to decipher the information given. Then, to make sure that you understand the information given, repeat it so that you know you have received the information correctly. Process it before talking to your child.
3. Put It Into Perspective:
All kids get into some kind of trouble at some point. Don’t be too hard on your child. Put it into perspective and move forward. Is your child acting out because of changes at home? Are they in with the wrong crowd? There are usually reasons why a child gets in trouble at school so try to understand that first before disciplining your child.
4. Ask the Tough Questions:
This part can be hard but it’s very important. Were there any other kids involved? Has the school taken steps to assess punishment or discipline? Does the disciplinary action fit the “crime”? Don’t be afraid to speak out and ask questions.
5. Get Involved:
Get involved with the disciplinary action with the school. I know at my daughter’s school, if she is ever to be disciplined, I would be invited to the school to sign-off on the action. Meet with the teacher if need be or the assistant principal (or even the principal if need be).
6. Be Proactive, Not Reactive:
Despite your child getting in trouble, they deserve forgiveness. Don’t be too hard on them. And to prevent additional incidents, be proactive, not reactive. Discuss with them the type of behavior that they need to have each day and promote positivity. Try to stop additional disciplinary issues before they happen.
No one likes it when the school calls because of a disciplinary issue. But it’s not the end of the world. Put these tips to use and encourage positive behavior in your child.
We also have to keep in mind not to be too harsh on our kids. It could have just been an accident. I remember when I was five, I was reprimanded because I hit another girl in the eye with a doll’s head. I didn’t mean to hit her, we were playing and I just threw it hard thinking she’ll catch it, not thinking it may harm her instead.