The other day, I got a craving for some greasy hash browns, so I went to the Waffle House to order my potatoes scattered, smothered, double covered. Every six months or so. I have to satisfy my craving for this so-called “food”. Anyway, while I was there, a group of older African American women walked into the restaurant and sat at a booth across from me. All of them were well dressed, and looked as if they may have been traveling. After watching the group of women chit chat and bond over their meal (I love to people watch), I noticed that one of the women had on a wig that was visibly in disarray. The wig looked as it was almost halfway off of her head, twisted to and fro, looking strangely unkempt. The group of older ladies continued to eat and laugh and chi-chatter away, but no one said anything to the woman with the twisted wig.
I thought…what kind of friends are these women?
Why doesn’t one of them tell her that her wig is twisted?
This bothered me. Being a real friend sometimes means telling someone a hard truth. It’s the sacrifice we make when we love (and respect) our friends. I would never let a girlfriend of mine walk out of the house look knowingly crazy, wig askew. I would tell my friend if her bra strap was showing or if she had toilet paper on her shoes, or if something just wasn’t right.
It’s a duty of a friend to deliver this type of news to a friend.
I thought of walking over to the table to make small talk with the women, then politely telling the woman that her wig needed fixing. I contemplated in my head for several minutes about if this was a good move or not, and decided not to do it. I chickened out.
Luckily for the woman, duty called, and she went to the bathroom. As I was paying my bill at the counter, I saw that her wig was now sitting on her head, straight as an arrow.
Whew!
So the question begs: “Would you tell me if my wig was twisted?” Would you deliver this embarrassing news to your friend (or to a stranger)?
Real friends should not let their friends wear twisted wigs!
lol I would definitely tell my friend about the twisted wig, but I doubt I would tell a stranger.
Monique, yes telling a stranger is a lot different than telling a friend. Which was why I was apprehensive about walking up to her and telling her. I didn’t want to cause a scene. LOL.
you know what??? yes! I would tell you! I would be like, “let’s go find a bathroom right quick.” Or if you had a booger, I would be like, “go like this…” and wipe my nose. My best friend in Junior high school and I made a pact to let each other know if something wasn’t straight. Our code was “am I clean?” I carry that with me, I have no qualms letting somebody know that they need tighten it up. especially if it is there intention to look tight. I would want it done for me!!! I mean c’mon, help a sister out!
Monica, thank you! I don’t wear wigs very much, but if I did, I would hope my friend would tell me! LOL. Thanks for commenting.
The Cubicle Chick – yes, I’d tell you.
A friend or someone I know casually – yes.
Stranger – no. You gotta be careful nowadays and women are really defensive about their hair!
Joyce, I agree. Some people may take it the wrong way. I just felt so bad for that woman! LOL.
As your friend, yes I would have told you. Just like her friends should have told her (maybe they didn’t notice, or they are used to it.)But as a stranger, I’m not to sure I would have said something. Women get very confrontational when it comes to their hair, that’s a touchy subject.
Kimberlee, thanks for commenting. And you are right. Some women do not like you confronting them about such subjects so I am so glad that she went to the bathroom and took care of her situation, 🙂
Whenever I see a jacked up person I always say: THEY HAVE NO REAL FRIENDS….
LOL. And you would be correct, Aisha! 🙂
I would most certainly (and do) let my friends know if their wig (or hair) was messed up like that. I let someone know if their hair is sticking up in a spot, bra out, shirt untucked, tie or shirt crooked, all that. Like you, I’d be wishing really hard that I could tell a stranger, and like you tho, I wouldn’t. (Also, many wear wigs and weaves that look a hot mess to me, but are being worn as the person would want or they don’t care of something….so an attempt to help might not be welcomed & instead be received as an insult. It’s our friends who have to come through for us, those who know how we normally like to look.)
I’m glad you brought it up in case anyone is reading who wouldn’t tell their friends (I know some who don’t), so they can learn from these opinions. 🙂
This post made me LOL. I just did a video and said something like “you must not have any friends or your friends don’t love you” when referencing a fashion don’t. Obviously you can tell my answer; shame on them for letting her get her waffle on with her wig dangling! SHAME ON THE LOT OF’EM!
Glammy. I appreciate how you always make sure my hanger straps aren’t showing when I am out. I love that about you! 🙂
For goodness sake, absolutely and I would hope the company I was in would tell me as well.
Come on ladies, we’ve got to do better!
Funny that you tell this story, because I was out having drinks one night and saw a young lady whose lace front made her look more like a jack-o-lantern and the first thing that came to mind was “why in the world didn’t her girls TELL her!!?”.
I’d hope that my girls would tell me something was astray with my hair or clothes and would be open to a stranger saying something as well. Same courtesy applies to being told about that piece of toilet tissue on the bottom of my shoes. =)
My friends make it their business to inform me when I am slightly out of place, whether I have something in between my teeth, or mucus hanging out my nose. I’ll do it for them, so I expect the same thing in return.
I would definitely tell that to my friend if it happen to us. True friends really tell the truth and I think that should be. Isn’t it?