February is American Heart Month, and I’ve partn February is American Heart Month, and I’ve partnered with @MedIQCME and Duke Health to raise awareness about atrial fibrillation (AFib), also known as irregular heartbeat which affects 12 million people.My father was diagnosed with AFib and my family has a history of this condition, so I do my best to learn as much as I can about it.

I’ve learned that when the atrium’s squeezing becomes irregular, blood doesn’t flow as smoothly through the heart and clots can form. Those clots can travel to the brain, disrupting the oxygen supply and causing a stroke. People with AFib are at approximately 5 times greater risk for stroke than those with regular heartbeats. Stroke is a leading cause of death and also of serious, long-term disability. It is essential to get to a hospital quickly if you suspect a stroke in yourself or others.Learn the acronym FAST to recognize the signs of stroke: 

F = Face. Ask the person to smile. Does one side of the face droop?

A = Arms. Ask the person to raise both arms. Does one arm drift downward? 

S = Speech. Ask the person to repeat a simple phrase. Is the speech slurred or strange?

T= Time. If you see any of these signs, call 9-1-1 right away.

Take this survey (link in bio) for the chance to win 1 of 5 $100 VISA gift cards—takes less than 10 minutes.

Thanks, @mediqcme, and Duke Heart. Supported by an educational grant from the Bristol Myers Squibb and Pfizer Alliance.
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Featured, Health & Beauty, Healthy Living/Eating, On A Personal Note · March 19, 2013

Shine Blog Series: What To Do When Someone Tries To Dim Your Shine


The Shine Blog Series will feature personal posts by both me and other guest authors and contributors of TheCubicleChick.com. We will discuss personal development, health, and other deeper, more thought provoking topics on this ongoing series of articles.

Shine Blog SeriesWhen you shine and all is right in your world according to your personal life, career, etc., life is but a dream. But when someone who sees you shining tries to dim your light, then things can become complicated. We’d all like to think that we are surrounded by positive people who like to see us doing well, but that isn’t always the case. There could be someone trying to dim the shine that you worked so hard to maintain. And that, can be a recipe that can destroy relationships.

When I was younger, I came from the school of thought that said if you weren’t for me, then you were against me. If you weren’t on my side, then you were an enemy. Of course, I was partly wrong; putting energy into people who wished nothing but negative things for you is not a good look. But, sometimes, we think that we have so-called “haters” when in actuality, they may be rooting for you to win, but don’t know how to show it or have jealous feelings about your come-up. This doesn’t necessarily make them a bad person; it just means you need to pay attention to the signals and be adult enough to discuss them if they do come to pass.

In the instance of someone trying to dim your shine, it may be more about them than about you. They could be feeling inadequate, not up to par, or comparing their life to yours. Whatever the case, you can’t make the people around you root for you. It has to be something they want to do—and if they don’t want to do it, then it’s probably best that you get them out of your circle.

As I previously blogged, “Shining is when it becomes about others and not about yourself. Shining is a selfless act“. So for those that you love, it can be difficult to shine if others around you aren’t encouraging you to do so.

What can you do when someone tries to dim your shine:

1. Just Say No:

In the words of my mom, “people only do what you allow them to do”. When you give someone else the power and control over you. Letting them know that you are going to shine with or without them will give them pause to decide if they want to support you or not. And if they don’t want to support you, good riddance.

2. Keep It Up:

The worst thing you can do is dim your light so that others can shine. Everyone should be able to do well, and if they feel by putting you down and making you feel inferior is going to change things, show them that they have another thing coming. Remember: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. (Eleanor Roosevelt)

3. Move Forward:

Not everyone is going to ride for you. And that’s fine. Know when to cut your losses and when to give it up and turn it loose. Although you might miss them, toxicity doesn’t belong in your world. Hopefully they will one day come around, and you can both work to rebuild your relationship.

In a perfect world, everyone would shine, without having to turn down someone else’s light. But if this does happen to you, remember to move forward with a positive attitude towards your destiny.

Keep living your life like its golden…

 Read Part One of the Shine Blog Series: What Makes You Shine?

 


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February is American Heart Month, and I’ve partn February is American Heart Month, and I’ve partnered with @MedIQCME and Duke Health to raise awareness about atrial fibrillation (AFib), also known as irregular heartbeat which affects 12 million people.My father was diagnosed with AFib and my family has a history of this condition, so I do my best to learn as much as I can about it.

I’ve learned that when the atrium’s squeezing becomes irregular, blood doesn’t flow as smoothly through the heart and clots can form. Those clots can travel to the brain, disrupting the oxygen supply and causing a stroke. People with AFib are at approximately 5 times greater risk for stroke than those with regular heartbeats. Stroke is a leading cause of death and also of serious, long-term disability. It is essential to get to a hospital quickly if you suspect a stroke in yourself or others.Learn the acronym FAST to recognize the signs of stroke: 

F = Face. Ask the person to smile. Does one side of the face droop?

A = Arms. Ask the person to raise both arms. Does one arm drift downward? 

S = Speech. Ask the person to repeat a simple phrase. Is the speech slurred or strange?

T= Time. If you see any of these signs, call 9-1-1 right away.

Take this survey (link in bio) for the chance to win 1 of 5 $100 VISA gift cards—takes less than 10 minutes.

Thanks, @mediqcme, and Duke Heart. Supported by an educational grant from the Bristol Myers Squibb and Pfizer Alliance.
Another flower arranging therapy Reel, this time w Another flower arranging therapy Reel, this time with roses and a little Stevie Wonder. I could do this all day! 🌹 #traderjoes #flowers #roses #therapy #selfcare
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#brunch #stl #stlouis #food #stlfoodie #hosted
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